Swim Championships

Last weekend we had swim championships. It was a very long and tiring weekend and we had a BLAST. First the 9 10 boys relay shaved CHA, into their heads, CHA stands for Chicopee Amberjacks. They had so much fun doing it and they all had a great weekend of swimming.

First Jordan swam with the 8 and under group. She had fun, although she got DQed during her IM. She did not touch with 2 hands on her breast stroke. I told her this and she started crying telling me she could not swim anymore. So I lied to her. I told her I had made a mistake and it was an old one. She did not believe me at first so I just kept telling her it was and finally after 20 minutes of crying she stopped.

Next she swam her breast stroke event and she took first place in her heat. She got a ribbon and everything and was so very excited it made of for the DQ earlier.

In the afternoon the 9 and 10 year olds swam. This was much more interesting then the 8 and under group. It is amazing how much you can learn if you just sit back and listen. These kids know so much and are so funny because of all the boyfriend, girlfriend problems, AT 9 and 10 HOW CRAZY. After listening to the drama all meet I finally talked to the boys. I was like, who cares about the girls, you are way to young for that sort of thing. So we made a deal. If the boys bet the girls time then they would show the girls that they can still kick butt. If the girls won then the boys would wear HOT PINK to the swim banquet.

The girls were seated with a 2:33.95 and the boys were seated with a 2:37.82. So the girls swim and they ended up getting a 2:33.86. Then the boys started and can I tell you there were 4 of us and we looked like a bunch of idiots screaming on the side lines. Well we pushed the boys so much that they ended up getting a 2:33.56. They were so excited that all the girl drama was forgotten.

On Sunday Jared had to swim with the 11 and 12 year old. He had a great meet for him. He took 5 seconds off both his IM and his Breast Stroke. These kids are so easy to watch and I just love listening to them as well. They have gotten over most of the drama that the younger ones are going through and just like talking with each other.

All and All it was a great weekend. I love this sport and I am so glad that my children love it as well.

Worst Mom Ever

I guess yesterday I won that award. I wanted the boys to get their hair cut. As you can see they have lovely long hair. The thing is they never put anything in it and with swim season coming to an end most of their hair was dry and had dead ends.

So Devon goes first and he gets it cut a little shorter then he would like. He is not very upset, and he seems to be okay with it.

Jared's turn and I go tell the hair dresser to just TRIM IT. Take maybe an inch off, no more then that. I guess she had cotton in her ears because as she started cutting it my heart started to break. She took about 2 1/2 inches off and he totally lost his skater flip. As I am watching through the window I can see Jared getting more and more pissed and each piece falls to the ground.

He comes out and starts crying. As we walk out he proceeds to tell he how much he hates me and how he never wants to get his hair cut again.

Now we are sitting in the car and he will not buckle up and he is crying as I am trying to talk to him. I think the rational part of his brain left with all the hair that was cut. I think she actual cut away his reasoning and understanding. We sat in the car for 1/2 an hour until Jeff came to get him. He did not want to be near me and not matter what I said he did not care. "I DON' CARE and GOOD, I WILL NEVER CUT MY HAIR AGAIN." We screamed at me about every 1 minute or so.

All I could say was I am sorry and it is okay if you hate me you are allowed.

I guess this is mostly my fault because I have always taught my children to speak their mind and that it is okay to be angry with my. So I have learned my lesson "Never make you kids get a hair cut, It is only hair"

Today was a much better day and although he still hates his hair cut he did tell Jeff "I guess it is not that bad, MAYBE I OVER REACTED" You think. Keep in mind he did not tell me this and this morning after he combed it he hated it again.

Devon on the other hand was okay with his hair cut, until the kids at school told him he should not have cut it.

So now if the boys have hair down to their asses I will NOT CARE.

Preteens You gotta love them

I have to say I always thought things would get easier as they got older. I know people have told me that it is not that it gets easier, they just get bigger with bigger problems. I thought that I would be a great parent as they got older because I was young and I liked the same things they do. I like the same music and playing the same games. I love talking to them and treating them older.

Well I guess I was wrong. Not totally because we do have lots of fun, I just hate this preteen thing. I do not like the fact that Jared cares about nothing. That he is lazy and difficult. I want to give him more responsibility and be able to trust that he is doing the right thing. Yet he still acts like he is 2 and he can never do anything for himself. He would rather starve then try to get food, he could rather go cold then get up and get a blanket. I am not sure were I have gone wrong at this point and I am ready to pull his hair out.

So now what do I do. I am trying a new leaf and I am just letting him fall. It is very hard for me to do this because I want my children to succeed, I just can't be the one doing everything. Right now he does not like me and does not understand. I am hoping that as he gets older he will understand.

Cold, I hate the cold

It is very cold here today. The low this morning was -16 and it is going to be just as cold tonight. I know that it is cold because I can not sleep with the heat on and last night I turned it down to 55 and the heat still kicked on.

I keep dreaming of warm beaches and wonderful sun. I love New England, I just think I might need a change. We usually take a moms trip in March and now I am think that March is to far away. All this cold weather makes me just want to stay in bed and do nothing. I even hate having to bring the kids to school and I usually like it when they are in school.

So I will continue to dream of warm beaches and maybe I will even try to book a trip. I think it is time to get away.

Death and how amazing children deal with things

One of Devon's friend lost his father on Friday. This is a very sad thing and also a very confusing one. After talking about it I realized that children need to know the truth about things even if the truth is going to hurt.

This father died because he was taking drugs and it finally took his life. While he was a live my children never knew any of the horrible things he did. I did not feel that they needed to hear about these things and I did not want to have to deal with them. Now that he has passed away I needed to explain to my children why and how this could happen. I did not want them to fear that I was going to die tomorrow or that their father was going to die soon.

They need to understand that it was the choose he made that caused him to die. We talked about drugs and addiction. It amazed me that they could relate to things that they had seen or heard about. Devon said "like the guys from Hoosiers that drinks all the time and then stops and then gets sick"

I was truly grateful that he understood and that he got it. Jared understood things as well which made it a little easier. Jordan only knows that he is gone, but she does not fully understand how.

So again my children have amazed me and made me realize that being honest and open with them is the best policy possible, for me.

Kids, wonderful kids

So Jared is starting to act more and more like a teenager. I thought that I would get this age and things would be easy. Now I am finding that it is more frustrating then I thought. I do believe part of that is because he is so much like me it is scary. I try to tell him time and again that if he would just listen he might not get into so much trouble.

I think he just likes the trouble so that when he is older he can blame things on me. He is starting to talk back and he always has to have the last word. That might be okay except, I am the mother and the same way so I NEED TO have the LAST word. I do not think he understands that yet. Although yesterday he tried to be a smart ass and when I told him to go to his room he went straight away. I thought it was because he realized I had had enough. I was wrong.

When I went to talk to him he was almost laughing at me saying "yeah, I know I was being a smart ass." What do you say to that. Yes you were and please don't do it again.

Anyway, today is his interview with PVPA. I truly hope that he gets into the school. I think it would be a wonderful experience for him.

Happy New Year

Happy New Year to you all! I can not believe that 2008 is over and we are in 2009. 2008 went so fast I think I blinked and it was gone. My children are growing so fast!

Jared is already almost done his first year of middle school. He graduates high school in less years then he has been alive. That still boggles my mind because it seems like yesterday he was just starting kindergarten.

Devon will be 10 this year. Double digits for him. He is becoming such a wonderful little man and he is so caring. I can not believe that he will be 10 and starting 5th grade soon. Before I know it he will be headed off to the middle school.

Jordan is still only in 1st grade yet we found out she graduates high school in 2020. I think there are some things that should not be said. Like my baby will be graduating high school in 2020. I can not even fathom that at this moment, yet I know it will be here before I know it.

So for 2009 I am going to enjoy my children. I am going to do many fun things with them and be kids as much as we can. I want to treasure these moments and bottle them up for all eternity.

I hope you all have a happy and safe 2009.